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Oh, The Joys of Trying to Have a Baby!

on September 20, 2012
“First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes the baby in a baby carriage.” If only life were really that organized and simple. In my opinion, this nursery rhyme is more accurate:  “First comes love and moving in. People say we’re living in sin. Then comes doubt and rage because we’re not engaged. We finally get married and things get hairy. A baby’s what we want, but we’re left with naught.” Or maybe the order is reversed for you in some way. The point is that although fairy tales and nursery rhymes tell us that we will live happily ever after with everything we desire, they fail to tell us how hard it is to actually get there.

Welcome to the TTC club. We are a passionate group of women, and men, who research, read, chart, experiment, and brainstorm tirelessly in hopes of having a baby. Our bookshelves are lined with conception books, our night stands are incomplete without a basal body thermometer and sperm-friendly lubricant, and our bathroom cabinets are bursting with ovulation precision kits (OPKs,) early pregnancy tests, and tampons we hope not to need. We are highly aware of our bodies and can rattle off exactly where we are in our cycles. We are a pretty special group. In this situation, “special” can be defined as crazy, obsessive, depressed, abundantly hopeful, frustrated, poked & prodded, very sexually active, exhausted, lonely, ambitious, envious, committed, and shameless.

When my husband and I first had the serious baby conversation, a new door seemed to open wide, complete with organic infant mittens, BPA-free bottles, and a blissful bump. There were no apparent roadblocks, physical or emotional. We had been together nearly six years, and we were healthy, young, and excited to expand our family. I miss that naïveté and the fearless anticipation of the next logical step, a baby. Surprisingly, as time passes and the wall between you and a potential newborn grows, your desire and resiliency also grow. You become stronger, both as an individual and as a whole with your partner. Sure, you’ll cry and argue, but at the end of the day, you are a better person. That being said, appreciate your journey for everything it is, long or short, easy or arduous, because it is all preparation for making you the best mom (or dad) you can be.
Share your journey with us! We are all in this nightmare adventure together…

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