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Coping with miscarriage [article recommendation]

on October 9, 2012

The folks over at What to Expect published a great article about coping with miscarriage.  One thing that really stood out to me was this simple observation:

Why am I so upset? The grief you’re feeling is real — no matter how early in pregnancy you experienced the loss of a baby, you’ll feel that loss deeply. Even if you never saw your baby, you knew that he or she was growing inside of you, and you formed a bond; however abstract the attachment, you felt it. The baby was responsible for your emotions during pregnancy.From the moment you found out you were pregnant, you imagined yourself a mother — and then, all the excitement of forthcoming months (and years, and decades) abruptly came to a halt.

This is something I never thought about when I had my two chemical pregnancies and the one miscarriage.  The baby was responsible for the emotions I was feeling.  That is why the only people who “get this” are people who have experienced it themselves.  This is why no one else knows the right thing to say to comfort you.  They’ve never FELT it.

This helps me understand that it’s REAL.  The emotions are REAL.  The disappointment is REAL.  THE LOSS WAS REAL.

For more words of wisdom and encouragement, healing and hope, check out the full article.

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