Two Good Eggs

Two cracked eggs find the sunnyside (and funny side) of trying to conceive

Normal is as normal does…

on November 1, 2012

A wise man once said, “Life is like a box of chocolates.  You never know what you’re gonna get.”

Actually, it was his wise MAMA who said that.  I digress.
It’s so true, though.  Lately, I have been feeling like someone went into my Whitman’s Sampler and switched out all the milk chocolate caramel ones with the nasty foamy strawberry or cherry ones.

I felt alone, and broken.  I asked myself, and God, “Why me?”

I felt like a circus freak.  The one with the broken ovaries and bad eggs.  I felt like going to see an RE would be like walking down a dark and empty corridor, greeted by a Magda receptionist under a swinging light bulb.

But this week I realized something.

I’m not alone.  And I’m not a freak. 

I sat in my RE office, awaiting my IUI on a rainy, cold, pre-hurricane Monday morning and people-watched.  As I did, I began to smile.  Everyone in that waiting room looked normal.  Every stereotype, every “reason” in my head that previously explained my infertility — I’m too old, I’m out of shape, I’m not thin enough, my husband’s too old – were all debunked.

The people in front of me before I checked in were about my age.  Both heavier than me and my husband.

The lady behind me was taller, thinner, healthier – and older.

The lady that emerged from the back to check out – much older than me.

The girl that came in as I was leaving – in her mid-20s, at best.

The couple on the couch – obviously there for their first consult – looked like a J.Crew ad.

These people were all beautifully normal.  And infertile.

We are not alone.  And we are not freaks.

Maybe that cherry chocolate isn’t so bad after all.


7 responses to “Normal is as normal does…

  1. Very true! IF isn’t just one type of person.

  2. Courtney says:

    I am always amazed by the different people I see at the RE’s office. Younger, older, civilians, military, fit, not fit, polished, frumpy, quiet, loud, etc. etc. Nothing makes you feel normal like going to the RE’s office and seeing that IF affects every single type of person under the sun!

  3. ivfmale says:

    I’ve nominated both of you for a Leibster Award. Check out my blog if you want to participate. 🙂

  4. cmdcupcake says:

    Crapola, I also nominated you for the Liebster! Great minds think alike.

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